Here’s a sobering memory, and one I’ll never forget;
I was breaking into the teens years and spiritually I was walking the wire; it was dark and although it really broke my heart to hurt people around me, I had become rebellious and withdrawn. I didn’t realize how much it affected others around me, or myself for that matter. Then I was in for a rude awakening. I had been sorting through some clothes with my Mom and Jenny when I came across a long-sleeved brown shirt. Modest? No, the neck was broad; the edges with a purposeful ripped & curled look around the neckline and wrists. I stared at it and whispered admiringly that I wanted it, and then without connecting the thoughts in my mind I added: “It looks rebellious”. Then I saw the pained look my Mom had, and that hurt! I felt bad and stumbled trying to explain and backtrack at the same time. Finally, I put the shirt in a garbage bag and then disappeared to have a good cry. How did that even happen?!
Clothing is like art or music: it gives a message (it doesn’t need words to portray it). That memory I shared was one instance where I liked a piece of clothing and didn’t realize the reflection it was to my character/ spiritual state. It wasn’t feminine, it was like I said; rebellious and even shabby.
Since then I’ve started learning what it means to dress as a woman of the Lord. Have you ever met a complete stranger and gathered a lot of intuitive information about them simply by how they were dressed, how their hair and makeup were? Or even how they walked? I think that these are all something we clothe or put upon (as a piece or behavior) and they will reflect our identity.
As Christian women, what is our first identity? In Christ and His word specifically identifies the women’s identity in appearance as:
” Modest apparel, with humility, strength and dignity, unto the Glory of God, with beauty of the hidden man of the heart consisting of meekness & a quiet spirit”
These nuggets are found in 1 & 2 Peter, Corinthians, Timothy, and Proverbs, even so, there are definitely more references to a women’s clothing/ appearance and the clothing/ appearance of Christians in general.
We are women, and God’s word specifically reminds us that mankind was made Male & Female. We are distinct from each other, this includes the way we dress;
“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.”
– Deuteronomy 22:5
Here’s a quote that was shared in the Botkin Girl’s Reclaiming Beauty course,
“My clothes are tight enough to show I’m a woman, but loose enough to show I’m a lady.”
Isn’t that great?! I still have a lot to learn, and my own wardrobe/ style is still in the making process. Maybe Jen and I will give you a peek at ours just for an idea of what it is like, but that will be in a while. Reflection is a huge part, and it’s important that we know who we are to first and foremost reflect. Christ. He will come through in His beautiful way through each and every personality. Refined, purified and I think it’s so exciting to know and see how He can do this through masculinity and femininity in their unique ways, in their unique personalities and talents.
I see it somewhat like a stain-glass window, we the individuals who make the church and Bride of Christ, are each a piece of the window, unique in color and shape, but the beauty is masked unless the sun shines through. The individual pieces alone also look quirky. But as the Bride of Christ, we are pieced together into a beautiful picture (the image of Christ), with the Sun (Christ) shining in and through us to give His gospel to the world. To radiate His loveliness in all the unique and beautiful ways He created us to. I can’t help but marvel, what a privilege to be such an instrument! We girls can only do this when we are first reflecting the image of Christ in the Biblically feminine way He intended.
Ready for more? Well stay tuned for the nitty-gritty of feminine modesty 🙂 Thank-you all for your patience, & please feel free to ask questions, I love hearing from you all!