That is a long title…. but it’s not long enough for how thankful I am! I hope you’re all enjoying your thanksgiving! Reflecting on what I was really thankful for this year, my parents came to mind 🙂 I’ve come to appreciate them more and more each year, although I’ll have to admit there was a time I found it hard to do that.
It wasn’t until I truly sought to honour my parents, that I really began to appreciate them. Honouring my parents was something I always knew was the right thing to do, but getting into my teens, I found it harder and harder. When I was fifteen, I was done with doing my own thing. I told Christ that my life was officially His – no looking back! I truly wanted to seek His will in my life, not my own. Interestingly enough, one of the first things that came up in order for me to grow closer to my Savior was my relationship with Mom and Dad. I wanted to please them, it was convenient, yet I hadn’t made a real change of heart that truly wanted to honour them. I was a true product of the world I had steeped myself in, and until I sought Christ, that world happened to be displayed very much through the books I read.
Have you ever took much time to look at the kind of books out there for young teen-age girls? For the most part, it’s full of the girl’s finding their identity, following their dreams and everyone else discovering the heroes they never noticed in these young women. Prime ground for bringing up girls who all believe they are the heroes, they are the only ones in their right mind and so-on. When I chose Christ I chose my hero, my reason and future. Thankfully I was able to change my literary diet and it was then I discovered a book titled So Much More *. It was in those pages that God revealed to me the importance of honouring your parents.
In our culture there is a huge push for girls to become leaders, go outside of the home and prove their worth. Once when Jenny and I were at a political leadership convention, someone there kept coming around telling us that we need women to be leaders, there weren’t enough women in the political side of things; “You need to try for being premier someday!” I love a good political discussion, and being involved in the shaping of your country is important; but that doesn’t necessitate my becoming premier! Although these things may seem unrelated to girls and their relationship with their parents; it’s part of a bigger influence which is pulling girls apart from their families to make decisions of their own. It’s expected that teenagers and young adults are rebellious and disrespectful to their parents. The Bible gives a clear command;
“One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;” – 1 Timothy 3:4
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;
That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth”
Although an adult wouldn’t likely refer to themselves as a child, this does not mean we don’t have parents or that we do not honour them. Remember the first post that spoke about the valiant woman? Yes, the Bible calls us to be women of valour, submissive to our husbands, or for girls like myself, my Dad. The whole topic of children honouring their parents could literally fill an entire book and probably more. Maybe our culture has drawn us so far from the purposed original state that we need that much to explain it. I’ll try to sum it up anyhow; ever since I recognised my Father’s part in leading the home & my part in honouring my Mom and Dad I’ve had a way better relationship with my parents, and it’s been getting better and better! I love their wisdom & instruction. I’ve also learned how to say sorry when my attitude doesn’t show that! I thank God as I look back and see how my relationship with Mom and Dad has changed. I’m also thankful for a Mom and Dad that didn’t give up on me in the times I made it most difficult.
” I will praise thee, O Lord, with my whole heart; I will shew forth all thy marvellous works.” – Psalms 9:1
“And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers…” – Malachi 4:6
Feel free to give suggestions for future posts. Or if you want more on this topic 🙂