To Mentor or not to Mentor?

This question has rolled through my head so many times, I usually just pushed it off thinking “I don’t have to worry about this yet, I’m too young to have anything to share!” but haven’t you ever thought, when broaching into a new stage of life “If only someone would help me know what to do?!” Maybe I’m wrong, but I’d figure that this happens especially for girls in their teenage years.

“The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things. That they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,  to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”-Titus 2 3-5

Although this verse is specifically speaking of the older women to young women, girls of any age can take this as an example. Think of the younger women/ girls in your life, think of ways you can encourage and exhort them to love those around them, to do good, to be obedient to their authority that the word of God may not be blasphemed.  Especially for the single young ladies,  this is a prime opportunity to invest your life into those around you (1 Corinthians 7:34).

Having recently graduated, I wanted to find a way to invest more time into my younger sisters; I still have so much to learn but I don’t want them to have to try and figure everything out without me being there to cheer them forward and help them. I discussed it with my parents and older sisters. Now, with a dozen girls in the family we older girls have each taken on a younger sister. I was a little nervous to ask one of my older sisters to mentor me to begin with, but when she mentioned God leaded her to invest in the lives of those around her, it was an open door for me to let her know He was teaching me the same thing! Now I have a mentor, and I’m mentoring Sarah, one of my younger sisters. Although I felt rather nervous going into this, it has proved to be an amazing help for accountability and a great motivator for me to keep growing as a woman of God. Being a mentor to Sarah really motivates me to be an example of who I want to become and who I pray she will become. Don’t be afraid to step out and ask to mentor, or be mentored. You’ll probably find that the person who you ask, already wanted to but was too shy or nervous too ask themselves.

Like I said, there isn’t any set way to mentor someone, although here’s a few ideas to help get started:)

  • Study through a book with them, find one that really helped you, and share it with them! Share your heart. *
  • Pray for them and let them know you pray for them, just knowing that can really help her move forward. Also share prayer items with each other.
  • Cozy-up with some tea & pretty background music; open your Bibles and learn from the Word itself.
  • Have heart to heart talks, unto edification, no room for gossiping right?
  • Be a pen-pal, Sarah and I share a journal in which we write letters, sharing what we’re learning & what we’re thinking.  This really helps if the person your mentoring finds it easier to share their heart in writing than in speech.
  • Memorize scripture together, more on memorizing later…

*Here are some books that are great for younger girls, although having a mentor help them go through these books would be very helpful!

Raising Maidens of Virtue by Stacy Macdonald (12-14 yrs.)

So Much More- Anna Sofia & Elizabeth Botkin  (14 & up) You could probably go through this book with a younger girl if you helped her out, I’ve found that some of my sisters thought it was a bit too much for them to read on their own.

What are your thoughts? Can you think of ways to help the younger women and girls around you? God Bless!

~Kate