When our world forgot femininity, one of it’s greatest losses was that of purity. Even for those who do value this treasure, the bombardment we receive of anything and everything unmaidenly makes it very difficult to know what purity is, let alone to be a woman of purity. Saving physical purity isn’t really a true purity without the purity of the heart and emotions. God looks at the heart, and the outside actions are only an outflow of where your heart is at ( 1 Samuel 16:7).
I like to think of purity as a flower- a satin white rose. Roses are so delicate, and flowers will quickly fade but when we are given this treasure- what do we do with it? Just as we as the bride of Christ, in love to Him seek His truth and are sanctified through the spirit. We also as women, keep our hearts pure, doing good and not evil all the days of our life , for whoever our rose is promised for (Proverbs 31:11) . Yet, I want to make a point, that purity isn’t just for the girls who will be married someday, purity from the heart is for women of all ages and situations. This purity is found in sanctification and a life purposed for our Heavenly Prince.
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God”– Matthew 5:8
#1 Find fulfillment in Christ
Finding fulfillment in Christ is essential to keeping your heart pure. If you don’t find your purpose in Him, then you will surely turn to whatever else you find. Giving your heart like Israel did; in their spiritual adultery of allegiance to idols, rather than the one True God. Isaiah 54:5-8;
“For thy Maker is thine husband; the Lord of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.
For the Lord hath called thee as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and a wife of youth, when thou wast refused, saith thy God.
For a small moment have I forsaken thee; but with great mercies will I gather thee.
In a little wrath I hid my face from thee for a moment; but with everlasting kindness will I have mercy on thee, saith the Lord thy Redeemer.”
#2 Immerse yourself in Biblical Truths
As much as the classic novels are beloved by many young women, these are often a tool against our emotional purity. Romantic songs, books, movies etc. are a splendid ingredient to the Soup of Discontentment. Have you ever found yourself enjoying one of these things, and consequently getting disturbed or sad in wishing it were your reality? Giving your heart is a precious thing, like a rose, it can only be given in it’s purest form once. Fill yourself with Biblical truths, one thing I find helpful if I’m tempted to be discontent or depressed is to recite scripture.
” Blessed are the undefiled in the way, who walk in the law of the Lord.
Blessed are they that keep his testimonies, and that seek him with the whole heart.
They also do no iniquity: they walk in his ways.”
Psalms 119: 1-3
#3 Learn to love Purity
Unless you willingly give your purity and heart to the Lord, out of love, it will only be a chore and you’ll only be washing the ‘outside of the dish’. There will be times when you are tempted, staying emotionally pure is probably the hardest, but focus on Christ and ask Him to give you love for what He loves. Go back to the word, & know why you value purity 🙂
#4 Say no to the Ocean of Emotions
Emotions are great when in their proper place, but unfortunately they can so easily lead us in to territories we never intended to broach upon. Learn how to say yes to Christ before your emotions. Don’t forget the sacrifice Christ gave for your salvation- purity is something none of us can attain without Christ. In Him we can guard our hearts & give our emotions to Him. A big part of this is trusting God, do we trust Him to hold our hearts? Give your heart to Him, don’t trust your own heart as our hearts are foolish- but believe Him to be the one He claims to be.
“Oh how great is thy goodness, which thou hast laid up for them that fear thee; which thou hast wrought for them that trust in thee before the sons of men!” Psalms 31:19
#5 Guard your heart
Guarding your heart is an every-moment task. This task not only requires cleaning out the impurities but filling yourself with what is right. Watch out for what books/movies you watch, watch out for your conversation with friends, but most of all guard what thoughts you have. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on anything that will distract you from serving Christ. One thing that can really distract us is ungodly peers, be watchful for who you make friends with, because you will become like them. What kind of friend are you? Sometimes I find that when I’m with friends I’m tempted to think “Great, now I can relax on the serious stuff and have fun”. Although it’s great to have fun with friends and relax, don’t allow yourself to compromise because it’s fun at the moment. Guard your heart and share what your learning with them, in doing so you’ll also be helping guard their heart!
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23
There is a whole lot more to this topic, but I hope this helps! Ultimately digging into God’s word will shed light and give all the answers. God Bless 🙂
“Only one life, it will soon be past. Only what’s done for Christ will last.” – CT Studd