The Conflict


I once heard a story related by a wise old man to his son. The elder was a tribal chief of the Cherokee who sought to train up his grandson to be a worthy leader. He told the boy “A fight is going on inside me, it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He paused, then continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.” The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”


Wow. So, what wolf are you feeding? I’ll try and put this in a practical sense.

As young ladies, we are in the prime time to cultivate the fresh soil of our hearts and minds. The choice is, what will we cultivate? There are two options 1) Personal success and appreciation aka gaining a dream job, achieving the perfect look, and getting attention from guys etc.  2) Spiritual growth and beauty that comes from spending time with Jesus. (1 Peter 3:1-4, Psalms 34:5 Psalms 16:11)

If one was to take a Biblical perspective on what a young, single girl should cultivate, consider the following verse…

“There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:34 NKJV)

So, with this valuable time of singleness, let us pursue after Jesus and desire to live in His pattern. This is what will have eternal value.  Neither a great job, amazing looks, or your string of suitors (even if it is composed of one!) will last past this world. Indeed, they could very well disappear within say, 60 years of your life!  However, cultivating a pure heart that genuinely desires to seek Jesus’ face, will produce fruits that will last eternally!

In conclusion, I say let us starve the evil wolf that strains for personal gain and attention but feed the good wolf that the fruits of the spirit may spring forth.

In Christ, Jenny