Single: Valentine’s Day SOS!

Hello there!

Teddy bears holding hearts, chocolates laced in ribbons, and the general domination of the color red could daunt any shopper these days. Its a given, the first two weeks February seem one giant romantic hullabaloo.

For those of us, who, as singles, have turned away from the world’s musical-chairs-of-romance and have instead chosen to follow after the Biblical pattern of relationships, this time of year can be an extra cringe. How do you relish and cultivate the blessing of love when you have “no one to love it with”?

First off, let’s make a quick reassessment of where we are. We girls have renounced the world’s game of catch and be caught. We have decided to pour ourselves into the lives of others, being a godly example and blessing to those younger than us. Isn’t that in itself exhilarating?! We have a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to showcase God’s glorious love to our family and community. We won’t get these youthful single years back – every second matters. Of all holidays, Valentines Day can a day where we shower our family and friends with love, because we are filled with the love of Christ flowing through us.

Also, never forget Who is doing this work in us (Philippians 2:13). We are Christ’s. Our hearts are in tune with Him. He is our everything. The world has degraded that truth into a self-help chant but I would encourage you to rethink the phrase in a new light. Prayerfully read this list of who the scriptures describe Jesus as being to the Christian.

  • He is my Portion (Psalms 73:26)
  • my Maker, my Husband (Isaiah 54:5)
  • my Well-Beloved (Song of Solomon 1:13)
  • my Savior (2 Peter 3:18)
  • my Hope (1 Timothy 1:1)
  • my Helper (Hebrews 13:6)
  • my Healer (Luke 9:11)
  • my Refiner, my Purifier (Malachi 3:3)
  • my Lord, Master (John 13:13)
  • my Example (John 13:15)
  • my Teacher (John 3:2)
  • my Shepherd (Psalms 23:1)
  • me Restorer (Psalms 23:3)
  • my Peace (Ephesians 2:14)
  • my All in All (Colossians 3:11)

In light of these words, we can whole-heartedly say with Paul that “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content” (Philippians 4:11)

Girls, family matters. Girlfriends matter. People around you matter. Serve them with gusto, bring on the sprinkles that liven up life, and see what happens. Taking your eyes off yourself can really change how you view the world. In closing, I would like to share with you three words that have really helped me in this area. I call them the three “L’s”

  1. Lift your eyes off your own emotions and circumstances, refocus your gaze on Christ.
  2. Look out at those around you whom God has put around you to influence and empower.
  3. Live out your love, and serve sacrificially as Christ’s hands and feet.

“Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.” – Philippians 2:2-4