It’s a given that practically every single girl has had some thought about her future husband. Even the little girls who enjoy playing dolls and listening to princess stories. They’re already wondering about their prince. What if we told you that you could be doing something for Prince Charming – even before you meet him? Something so big it transcends all physical boundaries and can affect a person inside out!
Proverbs 31:12 says “She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life” This verse explicitly states that the good a woman can do for “him” encompasses her whole life, not just the time after she’s married. Of course, some may say “Doing him good? Oh yeah, like studying Greek while scrubbing the floors, right?” Well, the truth is we can’t tell you what skills to cover in order to please Prince C. – every fellow is a bit different. But we can tell you one thing that can make a world of difference – for the better – if you are to marry this Prince Charming. Prayer. That is what can change lives, strengthen relationships, and treasure purity of heart and mind.
Does the thought of praying for your husband sound way too weird or too far in the future to worry about? I admit that for a long time I (Jenny) thought “Seriously?! Praying for a guy who might not exist? How do even you pray for someone when you don’t know their name?” Well, let’s say that was a lesson learned. God isn’t a bad postman who won’t know where to apply a prayer when no name is attached and your prayers will not be wasted. If anything, they will teach you to completely entrust this area of your life to Christ. Praying will enable you to submit your future husband and even your future with a husband to Jesus.
From the Bible, we get an awesome picture of what a man after God’s heart is like:
- He is gracious, compassionate, and righteous (Psalms 112:4 & 1 John 3:7)
- He lends generously (Psalms 112:5+9, Psalms 37:21, Proverbs 11:25)
- He is discreet with his money (Psalms 112:5)
- He does not fear the future, trusting in God (Psalms 112:8)
- He doesn’t hang around those who love twisted truth (Psalms 1:1)
- His words are full of life (Proverbs 10:11)
- He bases his decisions on God’s leading (Psalms 37:23)
- He is diligent in work (Proverbs 22:29)
- He understands the Biblical roles of manhood (1 Timothy 5:2, II Timothy 2:1-2 Ephesians 5:21-23 & 6:4)
A pretty steep order, eh? Well, it actually reminds us of the traits of the Proverbs 31 woman – girls aren’t the only ones held to a high standard! This is because both male and female should be desiring to follow the pattern of Christ. In 1 Peter 2:21 says “For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps:” Also, Hudson Taylor once said, “It is possible to move men, through God, by prayer alone.”. Your prayers for your future husband can make a real, living difference. Imagine how special it would be to know that your spouse was consistently praying for you, coming before the Lord on your behalf!
Here are a few practical ideas on how to keep yourself accountable in this area and encourage you not to give up. Also, looking back at them will remind you for whom you are keeping yourself for.
- Make a treasure chest of prayers letters… keep the key safe somewhere!
- Buy a tie, put it in a place where you’ll see it a lot in order to help remind you to pray for your future husband
- Write in a journal; a little booklet of thoughts & prayers
- Make a small list of things you would specifically ask God for in a future husband (not physical preferences, but lasting, spiritual traits) and keep it in your Bible so that you remember to pray for him during your devotions *Don’t drop your Bible on accident! 😉
In conclusion, here are some blog posts that we thought you girls may be interested in. They, too, go into how a young woman can do her husband “all the days of her life.”
Kate and Jen