Guest post by: our sister Victoria 🙂
Welcome back! Today we are looking at some practical ways a girl can prepare herself for marriage.
1. Spend time in God’s word and in Prayer
This is closely tied with what I discussed in the previous post but I cannot emphasize enough the need to spend time in God’s Word and in prayer. Not only will this nurture and develop your relationship with God it will also enable you to become a discerning woman strong in her faith. Make sure you spend time in God’s word every morning, even before breakfast if you can. No matter how busy your morning schedule is, be sure to include your Bible reading, even if it means getting up earlier. Rather than trying to ‘fit’ devotions into our mornings we should instead ‘build’ our mornings around our devotions.
My voice shalt thou hear in the morning, O Lord; in the morning will I direct my prayer unto thee, and will look up. – Psalms 5:3
2. Learn to be efficient with your time
No man wants to marry a woman who fritters away her time with silly past times. How much time do you spend on social media, creating online profiles or reading blogs? Reading novels or watching movies are other common areas of wasting time. Are you using your time efficiently? Are you using your time to acquire new skills and serve others or do you sit on the couch after work and watch Netflix? When you are married you will have more responsibilities; learning to use your time wisely prepares you to be an efficient wife who blesses her husband and family. Be wary of ‘Me Time’. Although you need to take care of yourself, often ‘Me Time’ gives way to spending too much time in selfish past times. If you are not careful, time that could have been spent in serving others or learning a new skill will instead be used up with nail painting and watching silly YouTube videos.
Redeeming the time, because the days are evil. – Ephesians 5:16
3. Use Your Money Wisely
When we are single in the workforce it is easy to take no thought for a budget and spend our money on whatever we want. We can easily hand over our earnings for a cute pair of shoes or the ‘most darling outfit’. While I am no fan of being a miser, learning to be careful with our money is a skill that will bless your future marriage. Teach yourself to budget, learn to shop at thrift stores and research how to create outfits from a capsule wardrobe. Remember to only purchase what you will actually use/need. Challenge yourself to see how much money you can save. A savings account is an extremely useful asset you can take into your marriage. Perhaps you and your husband will have a mortgage to pay off, or need furniture or appliances for your new home. Extra cash always comes in handy! Also, your budgeting skills will be irreplaceable in your marriage.
But godliness with contentment is great gain. – 1 Timothy 6:6
4. Live a Healthy Lifestyle
If you find yourself living on caffeine and energy bars or packaged foods it is time to take a look at your lifestyle. It may work for you now but it will affect your health in the long run and your energy and stamina will suffer. One asset you can bring into a marriage is knowledge of living a healthy life and a body that has genuine energy rather than caffeine highs. Make sure you eat whole foods and avoid processed packaged meals. Get outside for some exercise and aim to decrease the amount of caffeine and sugar you consume in a day. Armed with basic health knowledge you can be prepared to care for your husband and yourself in a healthy way.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. – Proverbs 31: 17
5. Work on Your Cooking Skills
Now, you can slam this as outdated and traditional, but outdated or not everyone gets hungry and cornflakes make a lame supper. If your a girl whose kitchen prowess consists of opening a box of Kraft Dinner you might have to start looking at teaching yourself to cook. Now I don’t necessarily mean you should take a culinary course and start creating 7-course meals. But I do mean learning to create tasty and nutritious meals with whole foods, and even better to teach yourself how to do it on a budget. This skill will prove invaluable. Trust me. Everyone loves a home-cooked meal. Your future husband included.
“She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.” – Proverbs 31:15
6. Teach Yourself to be Handy with Tools
Rather than assuming our future husband will be our handyman who listens to our beck and call we can be women who know how to keep every aspect of the home in working order – loose hinges included. You don’t have to become a carpenter, but learn the basics of using tools and do odd jobs around the house. Does the front door squeak? Fix it. Are the shelves wobbling? Tighten the screws. Screen ripped on the back door? Replace it. Even go as far as to teach yourself basics of plumbing so you can fix those leaky pipes under the sink. I am not saying this in the spirit of ‘Girl Power” and budging your future husband out of the way. Rather, wouldn’t you want to be the future wife who instead of complaining of the leaky faucet to her husband when he comes home can fix it herself with no nagging.
“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men” – Colossians 3:23
7. Be a Good Roommate
Whether you are sharing a room with a sibling or renting an apartment with your girlfriends you need to remember to be a considerate roomie. Don’t be the person who mounds socks in the corner or dumps their things all over the kitchen table for 3 days. When you clean out the trunk of your car don’t leave it in a pile at the back entry. Rather than fighting for your space in the closet, be generous and let your sister store her artwork in your spare cubby. Always be sure to do more than your share of the cleaning and maintenance. It doesn’t matter who spilled the beads on the floor, clean them up. If you have quirky habits that’s fine -as long as it is done with consideration to others. If your habits make it hard for others to live with you, break your habit. It can be done. Marriage is when a husband and wife learn to work and live together. If you struggle with sharing a room with your sibling how do you expect to get along with your future husband?
“With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love” – Ephesians 4:2
Well girls, there you have it.
While my list is by no means exhaustive, I have hoped to share some of the things I learned during my single years and the first few months of marriage.
Now, for those who think they may never get married and lists like this could be a complete waste of time, hold on a second. While it is true that there may be some of you who will not get married none of these skills are exclusive to the marriage covenant. These skills affect all areas of life and can never be wasted.
For each and every one of you, I encourage you to live a life fully for Jesus and delight yourself in Him and your life will shine the true beauty of Christ!
“Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.” – 1 Peter 3: 3-4