I was just thinking about girl talk lately. What is girl-talk? Well, I guess it’s that confiding conversation we girls share, whether it be a spiel about something we’re passionate about, a new great song or maybe we just want our friends to sort our problems out for us… it can be literally about anything! I think girl-talk is one of those things that can be used for good, or bad.
For me personally, it’s when I’m with close friends that I find myself in the most danger of saying something I’ll regret, it’s great to relax with friends but does that mean that I don’t take care to what I say? Unfortunately, girl talk can often lead to gossip, the comparison trap, or discontentment; why would I ever want to bring that up when amongst friends, or even just when thinking to myself? I love how my friendships have changed over the few years, I’ve seen how we’ve grown together in so many ways., and bringing Christ to the goal and centre of our friendship changed everything! I’ll be the first to admit that I still make too many mistakes in this area, but we’ve still got our lives ahead of us ! We have plenty of room for growth together as learn to reflect Christ in our lives.
Luke 6: 45 says,
A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.
One thing that pains me is to see girls who want a closer relationship with Christ but they are nervous of how this will effect their friendship. If your friendship didn’t start out in a mutual pursuit of Christ & desire for growth then you probably will have trouble getting on the right track. As young women, we are establishing what we believe, what we live for and how. I heard it once said that by the time your 20; you’ve pretty much established the kind of woman you’ll be.
What kind of women are we encouraging our friends to be- what kind of friend are we allowing ourselves to be?
Let’s be the proverbs 31 woman- whose tongue speaks of wisdom and is full of kindness. Let’s be women who truly show, in our feminine ways the radiance and love of Christ- especially in our girl talk. Ever noticed how much Proverbs has to say of a woman’s words? We want to be the right kind of proverbs women 😉
When it comes to re-centering your friendship on Christ, I would encourage you to take the initiative, let them know and be gracious! Tell her what you appreciate in areas of her life that reflect Christ’s work in their hearts.
Anyway, that’s all for now, thank-you for reading & stick around for a part 2 sometime soon 😉