So here’s for Girl Talk part two, I thought I might address more on the redirection of Girl Talk. We could call it Redefining Girl Talk 😉 I remember one incident, when I was on a really big learning curve concerning this. I was on the brink of one of those ‘girl talks’ that was really just gossipy chatter, when woe and behold my companion decided that she needed to weed out of me what I was thinking/feeling at the moment about boys. *Gulp*. I’m in for it now, I told myself. Then I proceeded, I fear non too graciously, to say that I wasn’t interested anymore, that we weren’t old enough to worry about it and should find different things to talk about. This was the right move, but girls please find a gracious way to break this. As my dear friend broke down in tears! 🙁
So how was I to re-define girl talk?
Truth is, I didn’t have to. I simply started a heart-searching journey that led me to take a deeper look into what God meant for me as a woman, a daughter, sister and friend. I had a long way to go, God’s grace has me still learning. Looking back I probably could have simply redirected the conversation, maybe something like “Hey, did you ever wonder whether or not God has something in mind for us young women; something special that goes beyond ourselves?”
The topic of conversation did change some, and in many ways it wasn’t topic but rather how we talked about it. I hope the following may give you a bit of insight into what I mean.
- Pray for your friend, this ought to be in the fore- front, because, as painful as it may be, you may lose touch with your friend. She may not understand, but pray that God will give grace that she may understand and too, yearn to grow as a Christian and woman of the Lord. Being ready to give up on things that were wrongly bonded over.
- Reassess goals together, if you’ve bonded over self-focused ideas in the past, find a journey together in discovering God’s truth. Our culture has packaged a little snow-globe idea of what a person ought to be and do, I would challenge you to look beyond that. In Christ, I can do all things- Let’s act like we believe it! It’s not our strength or ideas, but Gods- in which case we can be sure of a victory!
- Humbly and Simply let your sisters/ friends know about your desire for honourable conversation. Don’t make it about what you won’t do (although you may have to clarify, rather make it about choosing Jesus. *
- Topics can range so far and wide, I certainly don’t want to tell you the do’s and don’ts of conversation. If you develop a sensitivity to God’s spirit, He will give your conscience a prick when needed. I personally love sharing about passions, what I’m learning, we challenge each other on family relationships, and projects. Yes, movies, books and music too.
Here’s a verse that basically encompasses it all, it especially may help out with the #3 * tip above;
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. – Phillipians 4:8
That’s all for now; I hope you all have a lovely break into Spring, & God Bless!
P.S. Remember how the first conversation went? Well, if you want to know what we did about the ‘boy’s topic’ you can read about it here: It’s Not that Complicated. Let me know if you want more on that, for now I’ll just add, that this book was sooooo worth reading 😉